Self-Discovery
You don’t have to keep wondering if it’s “just you.”
The CS-RIDS-24* is a powerful self-assessment that helps put words to the confusion, loneliness, and exhaustion that can come from being in a relationship with a neurodivergent partner.
In just 5–7 minutes, you’ll get insight into your emotional experience—and a clearer path forward.
Take the first step toward feeling understood.
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Cassandra Syndrome - Relationship & Identity Distress Scale (CS-RIDS-24)
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Approximate time: 5-7 minutes to respond to 24 questions.
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This self-assessment is designed to measure the emotional and relational impact of being in a partnership with someone who may be on the autism spectrum (or otherwise neurodivergent).
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Subscales: It explores four key areas ("subscales"):
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relational distress
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identity erosion
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communication and validation
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coping and resilience
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Understanding your scores:
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For your Total Score:
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Add the scores from all 24 items to get a total ranging from 24–120.
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Higher total scores indicate more significant Cassandra-related distress.
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General guidelines (not rigid cut-offs):
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89-120: Severe Cassandra-Related Distress
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57–88: Moderate Cassandra-Related Distress
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24–56: No Cassandra-Related Distress
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For Subscale Scores:
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Each subscale’s range: 6–30.
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Interpretation Guide:
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6–13: Low Distress
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14–22: Moderate Distress
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23–30: Severe Distress
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A higher subscale score indicates more distress (except that “Coping & Resilience” measures a mix of strain and resilience, but higher scores there still reflect greater overall difficulties).
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Example to Illustrate Subscale Scoring:
*Disclaimer
This questionnaire is designed to offer helpful insights and support self-reflection. It can be a useful starting point to increase understanding and many individuals find it valuable for identifying patterns and starting meaningful conversations—whether with a partner, therapist, or coach.
That said, this tool is still in development and has not been validated through formal scientific research. While the questions are based on commonly reported experiences, the questionnaire’s reliability and accuracy have not been formally established. It is not intended to diagnose any condition or replace professional evaluation.
For personalized guidance, we encourage you to consult with a neurodivergent-affirming clinician.
©2025 Believing Cassandra, part of the New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this questionnaire may be reproduced, redistributed, or otherwise used without explicit written permission from the Adult Autism Assessment Center.