Maring Higa
💛 I See You—Because I’ve Been You
If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve felt the ache of being unseen in your relationship.
You’ve tried to explain what’s missing—why you feel invisible, dismissed, or like you’re slowly disappearing.
But the words never seem to land. The loneliness gets louder. And somewhere along the way, you started doubting yourself
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I know that ache. I lived it.
I was once in a neurodiverse marriage filled with both deep love and deep misunderstanding.
There were moments of connection, but more often, I felt emotionally alone.
I didn’t have a name for what I was experiencing—Cassandra Syndrome wasn’t on my radar. But I knew something was off, and I knew I couldn’t fix it alone.
That marriage ended in divorce, but not before it taught me everything I now use to help others: how to hold two truths at once, how to stay anchored in yourself even when you’re unseen, and how to begin again with your wholeness intact.
Today, I’m in a different kind of relationship—one where we still hit bumps, still have misunderstandings, but we repair, we grow, and we commit to showing up.
That lived contrast helps me hold space for the pain and possibility of your own journey.
🌱 The Hidden Grief of Cassandra Syndrome
If you're partnered with someone who may be autistic—or has traits you suspect are neurodivergent—then you've likely felt the disorientation that comes from loving someone whose inner world is radically different from yours.
You may question your reality. You may feel erased.
Cassandra Syndrome isn’t about blaming your partner. It’s about naming your reality.
It’s about finally understanding that your hurt isn’t imaginary. That your longing for mutual empathy, reciprocal connection, and shared emotional labor is not asking too much.
In my work, I help partners:
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Name and validate their emotional pain
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Rebuild trust in their own perception
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Set boundaries without guilt
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Work through resentment and identity erosion
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Explore the choice to stay or leave with clarity, not shame
You don’t need to be “better at coping.” You need support that sees the complexity of what you’re carrying.
🧠 Therapy That Doesn’t Gaslight You
So many partners come to me saying, “I tried therapy—but it made things worse.”
That’s often because neurodiverse dynamics weren’t understood or addressed. You were told to communicate better, love harder, compromise more. But no one saw the invisible gap.
I work differently.
I understand the toll of chronic misattunement, the impact of emotional labor imbalance, and the physiological exhaustion that comes from feeling like everything depends on you.
Together, we create space for:
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Honest exploration of what’s working and what’s not
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Reclaiming your voice and sense of self
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Understanding the nervous system impacts of ongoing disconnection
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Creating a path forward—whatever direction that may be
This is not about fixing your partner. It’s about coming home to yourself.
👩👧👦 Parenting While Carrying the Load
I’m a mom of two incredible kids.
My son is autistic, and my daughter keeps me on my toes in entirely different ways. I was also diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, which helped me make sense of so many unspoken struggles from my childhood.
Parenting neurodivergent children while in a neurodiverse relationship brings unique challenges—especially when you feel like the only emotionally available parent.
I support clients in navigating:
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The emotional toll of parenting solo in a partnered household
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School systems, diagnoses, and advocating without burning out
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The grief of watching your child struggle in a world that doesn’t get them
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Celebrating the magic and resilience of your parenting journey—even when no one else sees it
🏡 Bodies Remember What Words Can’t Say
Before I became a therapist, I was an acupuncturist and somatic practitioner for nearly two decades.
That background helps me work with partners who feel stuck not just mentally, but physically—tense, fatigued, wired, or shut down.
In neurodiverse relationships, many partners carry unspoken grief and chronic stress in their bodies. You may have lost touch with your joy, your sexuality, your vitality.
In our work together, we may use:
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Breathwork, movement, and grounding practices
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Somatic tracking to process what words can’t reach
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Body-based tools to support regulation and restore your energy
This isn’t about “relaxation.” It’s about reclaiming your aliveness.
🎨 Creative, Curious, and Real
Healing isn’t sterile.
It’s messy, alive, and sometimes surprisingly funny.
I bring my full self into the therapy room—my creativity, my humanity, and my deep respect for yours.
🎙️ Podcast Host
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The Messy Middle – Personal growth and emotional healing (2016–2021)
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Body Talk – Somatic therapy and mind-body connection (2024–present)
🤝 You Are Not the Problem
If your partner can’t see your pain, that doesn’t make your pain less real.
If others don’t understand what you’re going through, that doesn’t make it less valid.
You deserve to be seen. To be heard. To be supported in a way that honors your reality.
Let’s begin that journey together.